Roe vs. Wade – What’s all the Fuss?

I didn’t have an opinion about Roe vs. Wade. Throughout my life I’d heard about it, I mean, I think most women know that Roe vs. Wade = Abortion is My Right. I never gave much thought to it, until I enjoyed that right.

For me, though, my relationship with Roe vs. Wade actually began even sooner. You see, my adoption took place in 1973. I ‘made the cut’ in a way. Fortunately, I was born to the daughter of religious folks who thought it better to send her away to an unwed mother’s home in Canada. Ultimately, I was lovingly and sacrificially placed with a family in New York.

This fact wasn’t exactly a secret, but it wasn’t something my family or I openly talked about much. As I grew up and my newborn head went from bald to bright red, we all realized that my personality was just like my loud and wild hair. That’s why I carried even more secrets, adoption being the last of them.

My biggest secret erupted 15 years after a sweet baby girl died. I can still hear the woman saying it from the stage, “If you’ve ever experienced abortion, even if it was 15 years ago, you need to talk to someone about it”.

It was almost 15 years to the day since I had my abortion. Emotionally I was always breaking apart and confused despite the understanding that abortion was my right. Everyone says you’ll be okay. But the first thing I heard after was, “How could you do that?” I cried. I cried so hard that the nurse had to shake me to make me stop.

You shove it down as far as you can and go on with your life. Later, after marriage, with each new pregnancy I’d find myself desperately broken and on my knees in unbelievable regret.  As my babies grew and developed inside, the reality of what I had done was inescapable.

That day…..the day the woman spoke, it changed my life. I was introduced to the gift of healing.

I think about all the women who feel it’s their right to have an abortion because 40 years ago the Supreme Court said so in the case of Roe vs. Wade.  I wonder how many of them regret the fact that they enjoyed that right?  I hope women wake up and realize that, legal or not, a life is lost and a scar is formed.

The great news is that people out there now offer support and healing from the pain of abortion. What would more women look like if abortion was the last option, the least of all the possible roads when facing an unplanned pregnancy? The possibility of healing from your abortion is even being brought to TV. An article posted by announced:

Surrender the Secret is a new reality television series that will premiere on Knock TV beginning January 22, 2013, on the 40th anniversary of Roe v. Wade.

The bottom line is that a woman’s abortion often affects and hurts her in ways she did not expect. That’s my truth and I want women to learn that there is help and healing available to them. They don’t have to live with their painful past as a dirty little secret any more.

Editor’s Note: For confidential information regarding abortion healing, contact Debby Efund with Life After Abortion;

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